A Bridal Series || How we knew so soon

I never thought I would be engaged after dating and knowing someone for a short 2 months. If you told me last Christmas I would meet my husband in the new year and be married by next Christmas I would have thought you were insane.

Our first date was January 25th, 2018. We said “I love you” February 7th. We told our families we were getting very serious a few weeks into our relationship and he proposed when I got home from Paris on March 26th, 2018.

Please understand before reading this post that everyone in life follows a different journey and path. Our relationship will not be the same as the next and all relationships filled with true love and companionship are beautiful.

I believe this is the part where I should say “when you know, you know.” I never understood what that meant or how that was supposed to feel until I felt a deeper connection with Matthew than I’ve felt before. This goes way beyond butterflies in your stomach. During the first couple of weeks of getting very serious I prayed just asking “please guide me and take us in the direction we are supposed to go.” We have shared some very strong spiritual connections that still give me goosebumps.

Our communication level is very strong.  You can know someone for just a few weeks and know more about them than someone you’ve known for many months based on how well you communicate with one another. The good, the bad and the ugly. Not just about our past but our everyday communication as well. How we are feeling, why we are feeling that way and we don’t judge each other for those feelings. It’s only acceptance, guidance, patience and love between the two of us. We also just speak the same language so it makes it very easy for us to talk to each other.

We are totally comfortable with each other. I heard a great podcast saying how silly it is when people say you’re no longer free once you get married when you should feel the MOST free once you’re married because you are free to finally be yourself! We love and admire each other’s quirks and mannerisms.

We have both been through life. We have both gone through serious life experiences which have brought growth into our lives. We’re both old enough to know and understand what we needed in life and a partner to help us grow and to be our best self. When we found each other it was a sudden “wow, here you are!”

Our families and love ones knew too. We are SO extremely blessed by the love and support we have received from our family and friends on our big life decision. Not only did our families see the glow in our faces but they just felt as though it was right and we really were meant to be together. They could see that we are our best self when we are with each other.

At the beginning of our relationship we felt a deeper connection than being a long-term relationship. We felt a connection as life partners and we knew we were meant to be husband and wife.

Here are some beautiful wedding quotes that really inspire me from theweddingforward.com I can’t wait to place these beautiful words around at our wedding and our home someday.

“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday.” Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook. Side note. Matthew and I watched The Notebook together and he may or may not have gotten a little teary eyed

“What I love most about my home is who I share it with.” Tad Carpenter 
This quote would be so cute on a wood sign hanging in our future home!

“What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent, unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting.” George Eliot

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Two thousand sixteen.

I for some reason have had the most difficult time writing this post. Mostly because I’m not sure what my goal or objective is post. Do I talk about my trials and tribulations of 2016? What I accomplished and what I wish worked out for me? Do cry over my presidential candidate not getting into office? Discuss the extreme violence we have seen this year? Getting through a broken heart and finding myself? Places I’ve traveled to? How do I even begin to wrap up 2016 without writing you an entire novel? There’s so many different ways I could approach this seemingly obligatory New Years post.

The beginning of 2016 I found myself with wild anxiety that was unfortunately turning into depression in Vermont. Although I was in a good relationship, had a steady job, and was living in a beautiful place I knew there was something that had to change and I had to find Mariah again…but to my surprise I never lost sight of who I was at all, I was just still trying to find who I was completely.

I packed up my car with my life in the backseat and moved across the country by myself back home to St. George, Utah. This alone was quite the adventure and helped me learn and gain a strong sense of independence. After working and running around the red rocks of Southern Utah for a few months I moved my way to Mexico where I am currently enjoying life of sunshine, tacos, and culture.

This year has been filled with travel which was my ultimate goal. I have traveled around to some incredible places and so grateful and blessed for all of the experiences. Aside from passing 7 new states on my move I have traveled and visited Providence, Rhoda Island…Portland, Oregon…Bryce Canyon and Moab, Utah…Palm Springs, Los Angeles, and Disneyland, California…and of course San Felipe, Mexico.

In 2016 I stepped into the dating world which made me realize I’m completely okay being single and independent for a while. I have found some new favorite places and discovered some new passions which turned into beautiful new projects. I gained friendships and grew current relationships. I have learned so much about myself and what I’m really looking for in both my career and personal life.

You actually did really well, 2016, I am not disappointed.

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To be a young single lady.

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This is my first time being single as an actual adult. When I mean an actual adult I mean out of college and being well…having adult responsibilities.  It’s my first time being single at an age where a man can ask “Would you like to go out and get a drink?” It’s weird. It’s really weird. I decided to try “dating” and what a belly laugh it turned out to be. I got tired of the 11pm booty calls and being stood up a couple or three times. I felt like dating had no meaning expect for bad intentions and a lack of intelligent conversations, it was incredibly sad. Call me old fashioned and high maintenance but I will no longer call it a “date” unless you pick me up at my door, ring the doorbell, take me out somewhere that’s not the movies on a first date, and drop me off at my doorstep.
It’s gets to a point where you have to look at yourself and say “You deserve the best and won’t settle for less!” That’s when I made my decision to end dating and completely focus on myself. I am committed to only becoming serious with someone unless I know they are completely right for me and my lifestyle.
To me, being single is finding your independence and your true self. Have the “I’M AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN WHO NEEDS NO MAN” attitude. Because it’s true! I don’t need a man. Do I want a man? Absolutely. Every girl wants themselves a boyfriend and someone to spend the rest of their life with. As much as it surprises people anymore I do want a husband, kids, and family of my own someday but that card has not been passed to me yet so until then I will enjoy my life being single!
Here are a list of things that I have done while I’ve been single that have helped my personal growth and become my true and honest self. Which I believe should be your most important focus while being single.
Travel Solo
I cannot stress this enough to try traveling alone. My first solo road trip was while I was moving from Vermont to Utah. I planned my routes myself, drove myself, booked places to stay, etc. It was such a great experience to do by myself! You can read more about my solo adventure here.
When you travel alone you can explore what you would like and at your own pace. My goal is to take a big solo trip to wherever I’d like to go and explore. I’m really thinking Vancouver, Canada!
Grow your female friendships.
I think when we get older and boys become more serious in our lives, like you know….become your husband. We often forget how much we need each other. I couldn’t imagine life without my best girlfriends, no matter how many miles apart we are. Girl time and conversations are the best. Plus they are such a great support system! Even though they are all married or in a relationship they are still there for me 100%.
Get healthy and feel confident for yourself.
You don’t need to hit your goal weight and size for anybody else. Get to a place where you feel good about yourself. My goal is to lose 15 pounds by October 1st and thanks to my great girlfriend support system we are doing it together and encouraging each other!
Go eat a meal at a sit down restaurant. DUN DUN DUN.
Why is this such a scary thing? Why do we look at people like they are alone and sad when they are eating by themselves in a restaurant? I went to my first sit down restaurant by myself about a month ago, I was hungry while I was out taking photos in Springdale and I just love breakfast at Oscars so I got the courage to go by myself and it was a lovely time.
Go on a picnic.
Picnics are just so relaxing! I took myself to the park with a cute plaid blanket and a pizza from Pizza Limone and I was just as content and happy as could be. Plug in your headphones and maybe take a snooze on the grass to forget about all of your worries.
Spoil yourself.
I am usually such a stickler when it comes to spending money on myself that’s not student loans, bills, and food. I have recently come to the realization that I work hard and I deserve nice things every now and then. Go get a mani/pedi and then buy yourself that Alex and Ani bracelet you’ve had your eyes and heart set on for the past 3 months.
Fix something.
Recently my car light was bashed during a parking lot accident. I needed red tape to put over it so I wouldn’t be ticketed. I headed to AutoZone and went home to fix the thing. I also put a band aid on my cracked bumper. Bada Bing Bada Boom.
Take yourself to the movies and the zoo.
I don’t know why going to the movies alone seems like such a sad thing, it’s just like eating alone. You can’t speak during that time anyway. I really enjoyed going to the movies alone. I was able to sit where I wanted, spread out as much as possible, and I didn’t have to share my goodies!
Same thing goes with the zoo. I took myself to the Oregon Zoo while I was in Portland and everybody felt bad that I was going by myself  but it was FREAKING great! I was able to sit and admire otters for an hour without someone telling me “Okay, let’s go.” Surprisingly enough there were many single adults there as well too. It was a very calming experience actually, plus the Oregon Zoo is beautiful.
Go to Victoria’s Secret.
You don’t need to have a man to treat yourself to pretty bras and panties. There’s nothing that can make you feel more sexy then a new pair of lacies and a new perfume. I recently found my signature scent at VS, it’s called Vanilla Lace and it’s fabulous.
Find peace with yourself.
I’m a true perfectionist and it’s always been difficult for me to find peace with myself and who I truly am. Nobody is perfect, it’s clique but it’s completely true. You will never find peace and happiness in your mind if you keep questioning your life and comparing it to others.
So don’t worry ladies, being single isn’t a bad thing & don’t let society tell you it is either. It’s actaully fun and for a lot more reasons then dating.
Also, this song should be on your daily playlist. It’s best while blasting it in your car on evening drives.

 

Stay Sunny!

The Wonder Seeker