I never thought I would be engaged after dating and knowing someone for a short 2 months. If you told me last Christmas I would meet my husband in the new year and be married by next Christmas I would have thought you were insane.
Our first date was January 25th, 2018. We said “I love you” February 7th. We told our families we were getting very serious a few weeks into our relationship and he proposed when I got home from Paris on March 26th, 2018.
Please understand before reading this post that everyone in life follows a different journey and path. Our relationship will not be the same as the next and all relationships filled with true love and companionship are beautiful.
I believe this is the part where I should say “when you know, you know.” I never understood what that meant or how that was supposed to feel until I felt a deeper connection with Matthew than I’ve felt before. This goes way beyond butterflies in your stomach. During the first couple of weeks of getting very serious I prayed just asking “please guide me and take us in the direction we are supposed to go.” We have shared some very strong spiritual connections that still give me goosebumps.
Our communication level is very strong. You can know someone for just a few weeks and know more about them than someone you’ve known for many months based on how well you communicate with one another. The good, the bad and the ugly. Not just about our past but our everyday communication as well. How we are feeling, why we are feeling that way and we don’t judge each other for those feelings. It’s only acceptance, guidance, patience and love between the two of us. We also just speak the same language so it makes it very easy for us to talk to each other.
We are totally comfortable with each other. I heard a great podcast saying how silly it is when people say you’re no longer free once you get married when you should feel the MOST free once you’re married because you are free to finally be yourself! We love and admire each other’s quirks and mannerisms.
We have both been through life. We have both gone through serious life experiences which have brought growth into our lives. We’re both old enough to know and understand what we needed in life and a partner to help us grow and to be our best self. When we found each other it was a sudden “wow, here you are!”
Our families and love ones knew too. We are SO extremely blessed by the love and support we have received from our family and friends on our big life decision. Not only did our families see the glow in our faces but they just felt as though it was right and we really were meant to be together. They could see that we are our best self when we are with each other.
At the beginning of our relationship we felt a deeper connection than being a long-term relationship. We felt a connection as life partners and we knew we were meant to be husband and wife.
“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday.” Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook. Side note. Matthew and I watched The Notebook together and he may or may not have gotten a little teary eyed
“What I love most about my home is who I share it with.” Tad Carpenter
This quote would be so cute on a wood sign hanging in our future home!
“What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent, unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting.” George Eliot